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No_Higgins

2.1k points

10 days ago

No_Higgins

2.1k points

10 days ago

Why is it so hard for people to just not be shitty?

Temptressvegan

339 points

10 days ago

This is the real question

Ham_Fighter

214 points

10 days ago

Manipulation and fear is my guess.

kinos141

77 points

10 days ago

kinos141

77 points

10 days ago

Mostly fear.

InterdisciplinaryDol

136 points

10 days ago

InterdisciplinaryDol

☑️

136 points

10 days ago

Shitty parents make shitty children.

Goofy5555

44 points

10 days ago

And there's a lot of dumb people outbreeding the smart people.

bottledsoi

77 points

10 days ago

bottledsoi

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77 points

10 days ago

Cause shitty people are at the top of the food chain. At least that's one of the reasons why I think.

WritesInGregg

13 points

10 days ago

Categorical error, outgroup bias, inductive reasoning, the desire to conform, the fundamental attribution error.

It's all logical error and mental bias. A lot of it is in the hardware.

NoObjective427

6.1k points

10 days ago

Specialist-Box4429

910 points

10 days ago

Specialist-Box4429

☑️

910 points

10 days ago

This is my most used gif of all time

Devast73

205 points

10 days ago

Devast73

205 points

10 days ago

Staples is the champ!

sirkosmo

44 points

10 days ago

sirkosmo

44 points

10 days ago

Speaking of Vince Staples, I was watching Abbott Elementary and guess who I found as Janine’s BF?

lostincali

26 points

10 days ago

Keep watching, lol….

Hipbonepopped

37 points

10 days ago

Him and Janine take a trip to Bone Town

Kwaku-Anansi

16 points

10 days ago

“If I gotta do this, I might as well be full of meat and covered in sauce.”

sus-water

116 points

10 days ago

sus-water

116 points

10 days ago

Nah half of them would still be women so they still couldn't join the klan. Klan don't like abortions

Ghoti76

5.8k points

10 days ago

Ghoti76

☑️

5.8k points

10 days ago

a lot of black people are conservative without really realizing it. And for a lot of radical black people, the only progressive element of their politics is race

OriginalOmagus

235 points

10 days ago

a lot of black people are conservative without really realizing it.

To the degree that they don't realize it, I think it's largely due to the conflation of social ideology with political ideology. A very astute point I once heard on the NPR Code Switch podcast is that there are a lot more Black conservatives than there are Black Republicans.

jimbojonesFA

159 points

10 days ago

I thought it was funny how in the show "black-ish" they point out how Dre's mom was basically a Trump conservative in nearly every view she held strongly, but still insisted she was a liberal.

kimpossible69

44 points

10 days ago

My mom is the reverse of this, voted for trump but has a conservative talking point for every traditionally leftist opinion she holds concerning workers, guns, billionaires, it's maddening!

She even seems so conflicted trying to hold onto some of the hardline conservative values, the most apparent one being the police, her black patients have shown her numerous videos, she's always been FTP since she was a 7/11 clerk and a police officer informed her that "NIR" announced with cross streets on the radio meant "n-word in Redford", and our family has also never had good interactions with the police. She still ends her criticisms of them with qualifiers like "few bad apples hurdur"

RoughhouseCamel

364 points

10 days ago

If you’re a non-black POC, black people aren’t that different from white people in terms of ignorant and hateful shit you gotta deal with. The whole institutionalized power structure makes one group more empowered to casually cause harm, but the sentiments are the same. The most unifying factor between all races is how shitty we treat people we identify as “different”.

AssssCrackBandit

237 points

10 days ago

AssssCrackBandit

☑️

237 points

10 days ago

Ya kinda true. I'm half black half Indian and grew up in Chicago in a heavily black neighborhood. You won't believe the virulently racist stuff that I heard everyday growing up about my Indian half

RoughhouseCamel

103 points

10 days ago

Yeah, being mixed is tough because then you gotta watch your own people turn on you because you have something they don’t, and they want that to be your problem. Times like those make me feel like I don’t HAVE people.

UnifiedEntity

130 points

10 days ago*

This is kind of what fascinates me about race and politics in the United States. The racial bigots have made the GOP, the conservative party, the party of disenfranchising Black people because their people historically dislike Black people. Meanwhile, in Black land, we are naturally conservative. An open and fair Republican party would recruit so many Black people. Race is the defining issue - as it is so often in America.

duffmanasu

114 points

10 days ago

duffmanasu

114 points

10 days ago

The same could be said for a lot of minority groups in the US. For example, Mexican immigrants and Muslims both tend to be very socially conservative but the GOP is so absurdly bigoted against them they drive away their votes.

fireandice1987

61 points

10 days ago

It is true. People talk about the increasing Hispanic and Asian populations as bringing diversity and how we’re headed towards a more liberal country, lol, I’m Asian and I live in a majority Hispanic county. Yeah. No. If the GQP wasn’t so racist, they’d have more votes.

Aenarion885

28 points

10 days ago

Problem is opening themselves to those votes loses the racists. It’d likely mean a few decades of losing elections, which would risk a lot of progress against the interest of the wealthy. So they are damned if they do, damned if they don’t.

But yeah, lots of minorities are conservative AF and would vote GQP in a heartbeat if it weren’t for the racism.

Only-Bluebird-9935

17 points

10 days ago

I don’t think it’s that we’re naturally Conservative, I think it’s that we’ve been socialized to be so. In the same way that we’re socialized to internalize racism.

Ham_Fighter

1.7k points

10 days ago

Ham_Fighter

1.7k points

10 days ago

This a problematic statement on the surface that I really want to disagree with, but I'm struggling for a coherent rebuttal. Huey P. Newton understood class struggle was/is the real struggle. Unfortunately, most of us haven't got that message.

KeyanReid

1.1k points

10 days ago*

KeyanReid

1.1k points

10 days ago*

It’s all class war.

The folks winning it realized their victims will side with them if you just pretend to hate what they hate.

Class war on easy mode makes the money machine go brrrrr

Edit: nobody is coming to save us. I don’t know if this is gonna go anywhere at all, but yesterday I grabbed up r/workercommunity. Trying to make a place to stand together and help each other. It’s all we got

YesOrNah

344 points

10 days ago

YesOrNah

344 points

10 days ago

Yup. $50 trillion stolen from the working class since 1979 and I bet it’s way more than that.

SerenityM3oW

205 points

10 days ago

Eat the rich.... No matter what colour they are

DougieWR

93 points

10 days ago

DougieWR

93 points

10 days ago

The ways we address race as a national mindset is why we'll continue to loss. Racism is the tool used by the powerful the world over to galvanize their populations to supporting them instead of realizing the powerful are the issue. It's perpetually reinforced by the institutions they hold sway over and not addressed as if we solved it their greatest means of dividing the working middle class and poor would be lost to them.

magikfISH

53 points

10 days ago

It's the same for the Hispanic population. Most Hispanics are super conservative, misogynistic, religious as hell, and mostly transphobic. Race wouldn't even matter because quite a few Hispanics are racist as hell too. It's just, they judge white people too. I say this as a Dominican who observed his own community growing up.

Eternal2

283 points

10 days ago

Eternal2

☑️

283 points

10 days ago

That's true though we usually believe in big government too. Most black people align with the left on economics but are socially conservative.

dmun

235 points

10 days ago

dmun

235 points

10 days ago

You're confusing leftist with populist.

A populist also likes big government, but only for the specific benefits and benefits to their own group.

Just as many black people take a hard line on migrants or immigration in general, plenty want lower taxes (but all the same benefits). Hell, in my own city of Chicago, "Democrat" Willie Wilson is as pro-police as you get here-- he also wins majority black areas (where, admittedly, he does gas give aways).

We think of these as "leftist" except they come without a coherent, systemic paradigm-- just, "as long as I get mine."

Frankly, that's exactly how Maga talks.

schmoopycat

31 points

10 days ago

Willie’s polling results were SHOCKING to me. I haven’t asked my parents who’d they vote for yet (they’ve lived in the burbs for nearly two decades now) but part of me thinks it would be willie just given all their friends and most of my family did.

Hell, my dad said he voted for Obama simply because he was black. Nothing else.

IwishIwasGoku

96 points

10 days ago

Big government doesn't mean left.

darknessence

31 points

10 days ago

This part.

DaikonFew2329

15.6k points

10 days ago

DaikonFew2329

15.6k points

10 days ago

Now this is a real “unpopular opinion” and he’s 100 percent correct. The black community is STILL extremely homophobic

leviathynx

540 points

10 days ago

leviathynx

540 points

10 days ago

I studied under James Cone, and my favorite memory is watching him call out the black church for their homophobia at a big conference.

K_SeventySeven

130 points

10 days ago

That must have been epic to see in person! I only read about it later

leviathynx

135 points

10 days ago

leviathynx

135 points

10 days ago

I only saw the video, but he talked about it constantly in class. Made a lot of future Baptist preachers uncomfortable lol

stamminator

10 points

10 days ago

Do you have a link to this video? I know it’s a longshot, but I’d love to see that

Torisen

122 points

10 days ago

Torisen

122 points

10 days ago

I'm native and I LOVE my red skinned cousins, but there is so many bigoted assholes in the tribes, especially still on the rez.

I mean, I get it, we've been through some shit and are still at the bottom of the pile here in the US and pretty much everywhere. But damn I wish the wise tolerant native stereotype was a little more true.

Victims of oppression aren't magically better people, it's just another trauma on top of all the other human traumas everyone gets to deal with.

mandisaclarke

1.4k points

10 days ago

mandisaclarke

☑️

1.4k points

10 days ago

I lost a friendship over this recently. I told them their talking points are extremely similar to those of white suprematists and was told in return and I quote! “You need to do your research, they are hiding the truth from us” “The vaccine changes your dna” The deeply anti-Semitic talking point I won’t repeat “ I believe in the Bible so homosexuality is wrong” “ you have TikTok knowledge”

I could go on but you guys get it.

The funny part is I can have this conversation elsewhere explain my point with no emotion just logic and facts and move on. He consistently tried to insert these kinds of conversations into everything to try and bring me to his side when I asked repeatedly to not have said conversation. At the end of the day it was a respect thing and you can’t have a relationship without respect so here we are.

mochi_titties

413 points

10 days ago

One of my cousins was saying this ish & then went on a spiel about how the government was tryna emasculate black men by making them gay. I was tryna be gentle with it honestly as to not cause her to become more defensive & my aunt comes out to yell the f-word slur, which I tell her to please not say only for her to yell at me "why are you using so much energy to defend the LGBT community but not the black community!" Like out of nowhere, we NEVER talk so she has no idea what I be talking about but "if you cared about the black community you'd listen to your cousin instead of dismissing her" um, ma'am, she's talking about some Alex Jones ass the Illuminati is real, they making us gay, the vaccine gonna change our DNA like... nah I ain't entertaining none that. This cousin said with a straight face "did my mom really have Covid because she only had it once she went to the doctor & he said she had it" like yeah doctors do tend to diagnose mofos... like sounding just like some white QAnon Trump supporting antivaxxer, Alex Jones enjoyer. Wonder why I be straight up never responding to they texts/calls.

mandisaclarke

232 points

10 days ago

mandisaclarke

☑️

232 points

10 days ago

Omg you completely understand me!! I’m like sir how in this year of our lord 2023 are we still pushing the they are trying to emasculate black men.

I had this same conversation it went like this. Do children who in the lgbt community not see heterosexual relationships? Was your favorite sitcom growing up Martin? Did your mom not want to fuck Prince?

Like sir/ma’am be so fucking for real right now!!!

mochi_titties

106 points

10 days ago

They just be so confidently incorrect & if you have the audacity to use logic oh no. My aunt randomly asked "do you even identify as black? Do you date black men?" Because I'm mixed & my boyfriend is Hispanic just like one of her daughter's baby daddy. Like uh, are your grandkids black then because when I hang with them & my cousin everybody think they MY kids lol to the point my cousin will get mad & tell them to stand close to her 😂 But for real, why are the representations of aaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllll the heteronormative people & relationships not making gay people straight but you got one gay character or mention of gay & they think all the kids gonna be gay now make it make sense!

"And Martin was forced to wear dresses & made to have sex with a rich white man to prove his loyalty to the Illuminati" - my cousin

Tony_Lacorona

27 points

9 days ago

Tony_Lacorona

☑️

27 points

9 days ago

I’m actively not on speaking terms with my sister because she posted some anti-trans post about pronouns that straight up sounded like some shit off Fox News. I responded to her with “just because another group wants to sit at the table doesn’t mean there is less food to eat”.

She went on a huge rant questioning my “blackness” and saying how she’s not going to let “some man in a dress” tell her that she needs to specify that she’s a cis female. We’ve never talked about anything like this before and I was taken aback at how much hatred she had been harboring over something that has nothing to do with her.

She’s in a tough spot in her life, but it was incredibly scary to hear someone I grew up with and was raised with love to be so nasty and use another group as a scapegoat for whatever problems she has going on. I assume this is how a lot of people with relatives that have gone far right feel. At this point, I just don’t know how to move forward, and it sucks.

Jorgo__1

18 points

10 days ago

Jorgo__1

18 points

10 days ago

are we still pushing the they are trying to emasculate black men.

Which is funny when you look at some of the white populations racist rhetoric lve heard some people online spout that they think the jews are controlling the porn industry to emasculate white men through black actors in cuck porn. So i suppose according to the bigots where all in an illuminati scheme emasculation arms race.

FloozieManChoosie

26 points

10 days ago

And to your aunt (and also my aunts and uncles who act ignorant) “BLACK PEOPLE ARE ALSO LGBTQ+…” Black trans women are the most underemployed, unhoused, and the most targeted.

If their version of equality enables them to shit on other oppressed persons then it ain’t equality. It’s just white supremacy with a tan.

bekahed979

475 points

10 days ago

bekahed979

475 points

10 days ago

Tell him next time ask him why he's getting so emotional. I mean, don't because he sounds awful.

mandisaclarke

313 points

10 days ago*

mandisaclarke

☑️

313 points

10 days ago*

😂😂 this is the best reply. He legit told me I was conditioned because I used the term fair skin to describe someone’s skin tone lmao. It was a conversation about how to describe skin tone without equating it to food. I’m glad this friendship is over tbh.

lyunardo

101 points

10 days ago

lyunardo

☑️

101 points

10 days ago

I think this one is different from the other issues you brought up. Lots of people don't like the old-fashioned term "fair" skinned because it implies that lighter skin is better than dark.

Fair means beautiful, which later got associated with pale skin in England. The lower classes worked outside and got tans. The aristocrats stayed inside, so their skin remained "fair".

Avenger772

135 points

10 days ago

Avenger772

☑️

135 points

10 days ago

Yep, i'm too old to deal with people like this.

If their dumb asses are still walking around out here believing in fairy tales when the facts are easilly accessible, it's not worth the effort to keep them around.

Civil-Attempt-3602

121 points

10 days ago

Oh yeah, anti semitism in the black community is wild.

EstoEstaFuncionando

47 points

10 days ago

The deeply anti-Semitic talking point I won’t repeat

I am not Black, but it really saddens me to see how seemingly common this is (/is becoming?). I frequently see Black Hebrew Israelites on street corners where I live, and while I'm not sure if all of them are this way, a lot of them say some uncomfortably antisemitic things.

I guess there is a point to be made about disenfranchised groups being vulnerable to fringe or extremist ideologies. See also: the many poor, uneducated people that voted for Trump...

mandisaclarke

31 points

10 days ago

mandisaclarke

☑️

31 points

10 days ago

It’s heartbreaking because at the end of the day it’s so insane!! They don’t even know which point they are arguing. They scream (insert talking point) but still identify as Christian which is it because you cannot have it both ways!

Vancil

4.2k points

10 days ago

Vancil

4.2k points

10 days ago

Shhh don’t bring up the homophobic hypocrisy. Everyone knows black kids growing up love being called a punk ect by their own community and dealing with racism on top of it.

rickjames334

2.2k points

10 days ago*

punk

Used to hear this very often growing up. It’s also proof that homophobia in the black community is especially directed towards men. I haven’t heard half of the bad things about gay or bisexual women as I have about men. It was always the boys chastising other boys bu saying “that’s gay” etc. You can still open Twitter and see the women trying to demean the men by calling them gay

chaymoney86

207 points

10 days ago

I have a coworker who told me his mom wouldn't let him eat pop sickles because it was gay. It blew my mind.

RobManfred_Official

106 points

10 days ago

Mans musta been fucked come muscle cramp time. No bananas? Fuuuuuck that

alexfilmwriting

258 points

10 days ago

I guess ive never heard punk used that way; didn't know it had undertones. What's the underlying meaning in this context?

rickjames334

506 points

10 days ago

It’s used as a pejorative for a gay/effeminate man. Like if you say “he looks like a punk” you’re trying to say he looks gay basically. This article explains it well

https://www.advocate.com/commentary/2018/5/24/punk-new-f-word

Key quote here is:

“But when black gay men in particular are referred to as punks, it's absolutely used as a homophobic slur, often followed by violence. It's far from an innocent word.”

tarnok

353 points

10 days ago

tarnok

353 points

10 days ago

My mind is blown!! Punks in white communities as you know is all about civil disobedience with awesome music, it's crazy how it got turned around on black men

TedLassosDarkSide

121 points

10 days ago

It may be that it’s the other way around, that it started with “effeminate men” or male prostitutes and got coopted by the punk community. I vaguely remember my father (white, silent generation) giving homosexual connotations to the word punk as well, which I thought was strange growing up.

Koraxtheghoul

40 points

10 days ago

There's a gay punk band called Punx and his Hunx that the openly acknowledges your view as where they got their name.

DaddyD68

39 points

9 days ago

DaddyD68

39 points

9 days ago

It is the other way around. At least in the US. Punk was always a derogatory term from at least the beginning of the 20th century that was reclaimed by the music genre.

https://www.etymonline.com/word/punk

pixelatedtrash

35 points

10 days ago*

It can mean that as well, context matters. Look at a guy like Danny Brown, he’s referred to himself as “punk” and means the “punk rock” definition of it.

But at the same time, Danny also tells stories about how G-Unit was hesitant to sign him because he wore skinny jeans and didn’t match their look.

It’s kinda like, what word was left off the end? Were they saying “punk rock” or “punk bitch”?

TacoQueenYVR

131 points

10 days ago

I had no idea about this, thanks so much for posting the link.

chitownbears

44 points

10 days ago

Punk to me was always like a bitch or weak or scared to fight I never considered it to be homophobic but language evolves.

rickjames334

60 points

10 days ago

like a bitch or weak or scared

This is where the homophobia comes in. People view gay men as bitches, weak, and fearful, and use words such as punk to emphasize that

Attack-middle-lane

1k points

10 days ago

Attack-middle-lane

☑️

1k points

10 days ago

It be your own people I stg.

Women be looking at you up down sideways but never straight when it comes to acting/dressing "not like a nigga"

Vancil

1k points

10 days ago

Vancil

1k points

10 days ago

Ohh girl I’m scared now my man got dressed and washed his booty hole he looking sus now. (Probably some insecure woman)

rilakkumkum

583 points

10 days ago

Remember when that tweet blew up, calling men who order strawberry lemonade “sassy”?

Attack-middle-lane

697 points

10 days ago

Attack-middle-lane

☑️

697 points

10 days ago

Call me Rocketman cause I fucking love strawberry lemonade

Saph

298 points

10 days ago

Saph

298 points

10 days ago

If anything it's just more badass to be ordering a "girly drink" and not give a fuck about what others think of it, rent free strawberry lemonade tastes fkin great

TheSavouryRain

65 points

10 days ago

Order a Pink Whitney next time you go to a bar. It's pink lemonade and vodka.

TangyGeoduck

11 points

10 days ago

That sounds incredible!

bated_breath_

20 points

10 days ago

I love it when my big, burly manly man orders strawberry daiquiris lol

You’d expect someone like him to drink straight whiskey alone which he typically does anyway but he dabbles in the fruity stuff once in a while

Poignant_Rambling

11 points

10 days ago

“Give me the strongest drink you have, but make sure it’s ‘fruity’ and had an umbrella in it.”

rickjames334

14 points

10 days ago

Sassy is definitely people’s subtle way of saying the f word.

koavf

19 points

10 days ago

koavf

19 points

10 days ago

I stg.

What does this mean?

Triggerhappy89

35 points

10 days ago

Based on context, "swear to God" would be my guess

RTK9

13 points

10 days ago

RTK9

13 points

10 days ago

I've had friends who were told they were un manly or not man enough because they dated someone who wasn't black / couldn't handle a black woman....

Like, change the skin tone from black to white and that sounds exactly like racist white assholes who are trying to keep their family "pure"

MelaninTitan

145 points

10 days ago

MelaninTitan

☑️

145 points

10 days ago

This is what I was trying to explain to someone about bisexuality in the black community. The reason why black women do not like the idea of dating a bisexual man is not because they think he'll be promiscuous. It's simply misogynoir. They can't stand the idea of their man being someone else's "bitch". The realization of that hit me like a ton of bricks. We really are no better.

old_dusty_bastard

63 points

10 days ago

Thing is, even stating or entertaining what role a dude has when he’s with another dude is always the bottom. Like, not every and all Men receive or even give anal.

This is talked about in the Bi community a lot. Bi cycles and desire, roles and such. I used to hear ppl say things like “sexuality is fluid”, and I’d dismiss them. But now that I’m older, and I suppose as more Men and Women open up about their Bisexuality, I can see it being that way now.

MelaninTitan

86 points

10 days ago

MelaninTitan

☑️

86 points

10 days ago

Like, not every and all men receive or even give anal.

This. And I still say, why the fuck does it matter? Why are we so obsessed with booty holes? Why is it that if a black man asks for anal from his black woman, we immediately go "he's batting for the other side/ he's a DL brother"??? And why is that worse than cheating with another woman? It's still cheating isn't it? Why does it matter what the gender of his AP is???

realmastodon2

48 points

10 days ago

It is okay for women to be gay or bisexual because by the time she meets me that phase will be over and I can be make her straight. The days she wants a women she can bring her over for me to enjoy as well.

This is how a lot of black men think. There is a reason why a lot bisexual black women tend to avoid dating most black men.

luckylimper

21 points

10 days ago

It’s so bad that people won’t hug and kiss their sons for fear of him being gay. It’s abuse.

TheRedditAdventuer

14 points

10 days ago

Calling them "Zesty" now.

Truestorydreams

143 points

10 days ago

We need to get rid of that shit. Everyone needs to embrace who they are and stop hating themselves.

We need to accept a HUGE chunk of the black community is gay.

Another big issue is that we need to accept: There's no shame in getting psychological help or seeing a therapist.

Church isn't the solution. I get it, our mothers,sisters, and aunts were huge in our upbringing and held it down during dark times... (essentially ournentire history). But we shouldn't be ashamed to need help or to seek it out.

KageStar

18 points

9 days ago

KageStar

☑️

18 points

9 days ago

Majority of black people came from the the south. The south has all of these issues because it's extremely evangelical. It's frustrating how much it viewed like black people aren't just a microcosm of the general culture where they're from. Let's not even get into the fact that a lot of grow up poorer and less educated and it's not surprise you have a group of people vulnerable to ignorance. Religion is the main thing holding us back, secondly education.

koffee_with_a_K

322 points

10 days ago

And transphobic!

Gary_FucKing

245 points

10 days ago

Plenty of misogyny, too.

ButtSexington3rd

376 points

10 days ago

Transphobia and homophobia are both rooted in misogyny. It all comes down to hating men for acting "like women". Lesbians and trans men still get shitty treatment, but the real vitriol is reserved for gay men and women who used to be men.

Gary_FucKing

171 points

10 days ago

I agree with all of that. Lesbians seem to get off “easy” only cus they’re fetishized and trans men are the new bisexual in terms of erasure. Misogyny and toxic masculinity are pretty much at the root of tons of these issues.

msmilah

72 points

10 days ago

msmilah

☑️

72 points

10 days ago

Butch lesbians are not fetishized. Let’s be specific when we’re being specific.

ParlorSoldier

27 points

10 days ago

And they’re also not thought of as being weak the way gay men are.

Jorgo__1

18 points

10 days ago

Jorgo__1

18 points

10 days ago

trans men are the new bisexual in terms of erasure.

That and they arent terrified about accidentally being attracted to someone with a masculine appearance like they are about trans women "tricking them into becoming gay"

aoskunk

309 points

10 days ago*

aoskunk

309 points

10 days ago*

So I’m the only white guy in my department at my job, all black. A Guy was bending over getting something off a shelf. I was waiting to get past him but apparently I was an inch too close or something, and because his face was at my crotch height he had a conniption. “Get your dick out of my motherfucking face, that’s a good way to get punched in the fucking mouth”. I really wasn’t even close to him.

Why is he thinking about my dick so much? I didn’t say that but c’mon. Why’s that even enter your mind? Some fragile masculinity.

My main man Michael had to explain to be black culture in the south is full of homophobes and that you can’t even joke about the topic with them. If it’s a clear as day joke to me, they’ll take it as serious and jump off. I’m from NY and found them to be substantially less homophobic.

Oh I’m not at all gay in case that wasn’t clear. Just not a homophobe.

Diriv

25 points

10 days ago

Diriv

25 points

10 days ago

"Then don't take up the whole hallway with your fat ass."

ferretsRfantastic

41 points

9 days ago

ferretsRfantastic

☑️

41 points

9 days ago

I'm black and from the south. My dad played football all throughout school and so did my brother. My dad can be weirdly liberal sometimes and then pop off at the mouth with some really fucked up shit about the LGBTQIA+ community.

We were watching football together one day and the dudes were slapping each other's asses. I like to poke the bear so I was like, "I've always found it weird that male athletes do that and then turn around and ostracize the gay community." He was like, "nah, that's different." I was like, "dad, I was an athlete all throughout school and only ONE time did another woman slap me on the ass. I immediately told her off because I don't like being touched like that. How is it acceptable there instead of a high five or shoulder pat but y'all can hardly hug each other for comfort? It's a little gay."

To say he got mad would be an understatement. 😅

realmastodon2

64 points

10 days ago

Growing up he was likely harrased by his peers and stand in front him like you did as a power move. Also some would imitate a sex position while you're bent over. Also parents teaching them not to be a 'punk' or '**ggot'.

aoskunk

41 points

10 days ago

aoskunk

41 points

10 days ago

Yeah your probably right. Some of those things happened to me I just cant see propagating the hate. I feel bad for him. Childhood traumas really require therapy. But that’s another things with a stigma attached to it, particularly in the southern black population I’m also told.

devilsephiroth

169 points

10 days ago

devilsephiroth

☑️

169 points

10 days ago

Not only that. If you ain't with them you against them.

If you don't listen to "black music" you ain't black

If you ain't ghetto, or ghetto enough, you ain't black.

If your name isn't one of the treys, or the eishas you ain't black.

I could go on but you get the point. A majority of black people want to group everyone together in one bunch and if you ain't in the bunch you ain't black.

This backwards mindset has held us back for so long that it doesn't even register for most people how ridiculous it is.

Udeyanne

59 points

9 days ago

Udeyanne

59 points

9 days ago

I'm half Native and half Black, and damned if I'm not Native enough for the Natives, Black enough for Black people, or white enough for anyone else.

BreadB

182 points

10 days ago

BreadB

182 points

10 days ago

As a non-black POC I wonder if it’s because black civil rights leaders have been whitewashed of all their class-oriented beliefs? MLK was an ardent socialist, but rarely is that brought up nowadays…

_hapsleigh

73 points

10 days ago

It’s not just black leaders in black communities. We have this shit in our Hispanic culture too. People like Cesar Chavez have been excessively whitewashed. The homophobia and transphobia is well and alive in our communities as well. As is the ableism and the misogyny. Literally the same level of vitriol and violence against these groups you see in black communities, you see in Mexican and Hispanic communities as well.

insanelyphat

14 points

10 days ago

I remember watching a video years back with a black pastor doing some real talk to his congregation about exactly that subject. He was talking about how they act like their members aren’t gay and are performing in the choir and band and deep down they know but they ignore it because they can sing or dance. He basically called them all hypocrites right from the pulpit. Was awesome you could see some people clutching pearls and getting all silent and others were yelling for him to speak that truth.

Wish I could find it again.

KingOfTheCouch13

12 points

10 days ago

KingOfTheCouch13

☑️

12 points

10 days ago

I've been say this to people for years! Followed by "republicans are stupid because if they weren't so racist they would easily be able to win the black vote every election." I've spent most of my life around majority black people and aside from the homophobic or misogynistic stuff, on a large scale our community is agressivly pro life, capitalisms, and evangelism. If republicans ever figure it out it's a wrap.

fuck_my_reddit_acct

11 points

10 days ago

Black gay dudes know how to throw hands because of a lot of practice

EdAndEinOnShrooms

2.5k points

10 days ago

My dad himself is darkskin - you will hear him buying into outdated, harmful stereotypes about other races. "That's racist" "look at the colour of my skin"

As for the Swastika comment, I have met way too many neo-Nazis in the Middle Eastern and East Asian communities because they also believe in 'white being pure'. The same people that white people harass

ValaShen

945 points

10 days ago

ValaShen

☑️

945 points

10 days ago

Colorism is everywhere. Some Hispanic people will literally tell you they are white simply because of their complexion.

PKMNTrainerFuckMe

643 points

10 days ago*

Tbf many of them are. Mexico used to have a whole caste system around the amount of indigenous blood you have and they still deal with its effects to this day. As a mestizo myself, Mexico is just the country I’m most familiar with, but I’m vaguely aware that it’s the same in many Latin American countries.

Speaking Spanish doesn’t necessarily make you not white.

Edit: yes, obviously Spanish comes from Spain which is largely ethnically white. I didn’t mention that bc in context we were talking about Hispanic Americans which rightly or wrongly are usually lumped in with “black and brown” Americans.

andee510

305 points

10 days ago

andee510

305 points

10 days ago

My girlfriend is Mexican with 92% indigenous DNA, and her mom still uses "india" as an insult for like shy or lazy.

ElCholoFantastico

167 points

10 days ago

Huh my mom calls me that all the time and it just clicked reading this that that might not be ok.

andrewdrewandy

86 points

10 days ago

Same with my dad's family. They talk about the indios down the street and in like y'all are dark as fuck and 4'6" on a good day wtf are on about ?

ashtobro

23 points

10 days ago

ashtobro

23 points

10 days ago

I really despise the modern use of the word "Indian" for Native Americans, I think it should be more or less antiquated. I'm a Canadian Métis whose family "had the Indian beaten out of them" and then some, so I get a bit peeved at the term being flung our way. Some families/tribes identify with it, which is fine, but I hate when people use the people who don't mind to ignore the people who do. (I paraphrased that "beating the Indian out" quote, but that was GENUINELY Canadian policy on "Indians" for ages)

My Grandma who was "Swooped" as a kid usually says whatever term pops into her head first, so I don't blame older generations for old habits dying hard. But it feels strange to me how "Indian" isn't generally seen like the N word for natives, and that people are content using a centuries old genocidal misnomer because Columbus couldn't read a map. Not to mention the fact that people from India can and have traveled or moved to the Americas.

soul-taker

81 points

10 days ago

Mexico is just the country I’m most familiar with, but I’m vaguely aware that it’s the same in many Latin American countries.

I visited Santo Domingo in the DR last year and them mfers told you straight up that they were better than the Haitians they shared the island with because their skin was lighter. That shit was wild.

GreyDeath

32 points

10 days ago

I can attest this is the case in Ecuador, where there is a lot of discrimination against Afro-Ecuadorians and Indigenous people both.

MLBM100

78 points

10 days ago

MLBM100

78 points

10 days ago

You can be white and Hispanic though. Hispanic is not a race, it's an ethnicity based largely on language.

ImplausibleDarkitude

108 points

10 days ago

doesn’t term “Hispanic” refer to ethnicity rather than race? Spain has white people.

amaninseattle

218 points

10 days ago

Spain IS white people

justlikeapenguin

16 points

10 days ago

I will always say it, Mexicans are one of the most racist people. Specially “traditional” Mexicans. Every time someone marries a white person they call it “mejorar la raza” or to better the race because for them being negritos is bad.

My mom is a very nice person but will still say shit like “Mira a ese negro” and hide her purse.

TV shows will never show you a black person, or brown. Always white people with colored eyes.

When Indians show up on the TV it’s usually to be made fun of or to call them poor/uneducated

Women are largely treated as property most of the time too

TangyGeoduck

11 points

10 days ago

I grew up in an overwhelmingly Latino city. The number of people who were referred to by or nicknamed “negrito” was incredibly high, and nobody seemed to have a problem with it. Same with “indio” for people with more native heritage.

Moogoo4411

88 points

10 days ago

Former British colonies are obsessed with the acceptance of White people and a lot of them are asian countries, don't quote me too hard tho, i got that from Ronny Chieng explaining his own experience with his family

EdAndEinOnShrooms

54 points

10 days ago

Yeah, I had this one Indian classmate who tried so hard to convince people he was "fully British, nothing else" because of the colonisation (we don't live in Britain anyway). This was back when we were in 4th grade though so you can just tell that a kid that age had the mindset passed down from older relatives

TooSmalley

947 points

10 days ago

TooSmalley

947 points

10 days ago

I’ve argued for a while if the republicans weren’t so racist they’ed do great in black and immigrants communities.

I grew up in Miami Dade county with a lot of Black and Caribbean people, A whole lot of them are very economically and socially conservative.

Same deal in the gay community. I’ve met a lot of gay people who are extremely economically conservative/libertarian and the only reason they vote for the Democrats is because they want to be able to have their partner down as a dependent on their insurance, Which for reasons the Republicans tend to be against.

strychnine28

559 points

10 days ago

Lots of misogyny in the gay community too, which is sad.

sanfranciscouser1234

358 points

10 days ago

And racism

boldandbratsche

208 points

10 days ago

The racism seems to come out heavily when sex is involved. I don't mean people just prefer certain races, or even that they fetishize certain races. No, horny gays start saying some super racist shit out of the blue.

OliM9696

107 points

10 days ago

OliM9696

107 points

10 days ago

i remember a post about black femboys which was interesting.

White femboys would say stuff like "dick me down daddy with your thicc black c0ck" some black femboys didn't like this as they felt this kind of racial focus excluded them.

probably not doing a too good job at explaining this but this comment i found does a good enough job

So, as a black fem boy, a trans guy, who has read a lot about the racial history of the United States, as well as lots of classic literature about the western world in general- I want you to know, first and foremost, that your feelings of exclusion are real. Lots people people who aren't POC are gonna say stuff like 'we love all femboys/all femboys are real and valid, ect' and while I don't doubt for a second that the people who are posting that actually believe it- you also need to know that this phenomenon of feeling like you are seen as 'not as fem' is not just in your head.

Systemic racism has spent hundreds of years painting black people, both men and women, as brutes. Doctors used to say that black women didn't need pain medication during childbirth, or surgery because black people had a 'thicker skin' and therefore a 'higher pain tolerance' which is not at all true.

There has been a global culture that has painted a picture where 'dainty, delicate, and fine' = 'skinny, white, and western'. But that is racist bullshit. Black skin is fine, it is as delicate and beautiful as midnight. It is as sweet and fair as golden honey. You are a beacon, whether or not other people can see it. Black boys can be feminine. They can be sensitive, dainty, and delicate. Those who fail to see that, are relics of our worlds unfortunately racist past- that has spent centuries viewing brown people as savages.

So, long story short, that is why you are being seen differently. But you are a flame, and you do not stop burning just because other people are too afraid of your light. - from user u/lovedavi

taken from this post

kinky_fingers

15 points

9 days ago

Thank you for sharing this person's comment

EssOnMaChess

19 points

10 days ago

Last white guy to call me the n-word was a gay dude who lived in my neighborhood. Both flamboyantly gay and a comically extreme racist. Didn’t even see the hypocrisy 😂

ziggy-hudson

72 points

10 days ago

And trans-phobic

strychnine28

32 points

10 days ago

100% with the racism and transphobia! Please don't take my not mentioning it as a sign that I don't see it too. xoxo

Trampy_stampy

12 points

10 days ago

I cannot even believe the shit people say to my Asian friend on grinder. Sounds like they’re from American history x but even more vitriolic. Sometimes people message him just to be racist and shit on his whole identity. I was floored.

Zebra_Salt

23 points

10 days ago

Prejudice is everywhere and so is the belief that “I belong to a marginalized group so I can’t be prejudiced”. I once had someone tell me in the span of 1 minute that her mom is scared of black people and that she can’t be racist because she’s an immigrant and not white.

UglyMcFugly

118 points

10 days ago

I can’t understand how anybody can experience oppression and go on to do it to other groups. Misogynistic black men. Racist white women. Homophobic Mexican immigrants. Body-shaming gay men. TERFs. If you’ve experienced prejudice and your takeaway is “wow this sucks for me, but it’s fine to do the same thing to another group of people” then you suck.

PogoTempest

22 points

10 days ago

They either think they’re higher up on the social ladder or they think the other group has it better than them. People tend to look at everything from their own personal lens, they can’t see past their own issues. Honestly tho I’m really not surprised, especially under a social and economic structure that’s so inherently selfish.

deterell

23 points

9 days ago

deterell

23 points

9 days ago

It's not really that surprising, that's generally how prejudice seems to work. The most stereotypically racist people are poor white southerners for a reason. It's basically the famous LBJ quote:

"If you can convince the lowest white man he's better than the best colored man, he won't notice you're picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he'll empty his pockets for you."

People who are constantly being trodden upon by the system will often latch onto anything to convince themselves they aren't the bottom of the social pecking order, and infighting amongst the "lower" classes is often spurred on by the "upper" classes to prevent solidarity and help maintain their own power.

TrophyGoat

18 points

10 days ago

Bush won 78% of the Muslim vote in 2000!! It's hard to believe now, but it actually makes perfect sense. The fundamentalist Christians and fundamentalist Muslims want largely the same thing. They recognized that before 9/11 but the GOP got so blatantly in your face racist toward them that they had no choice but to change voting habits

usuallyclassy69

1.3k points

10 days ago

usuallyclassy69

☑️

1.3k points

10 days ago

All I wanna say is I'll popping some popcorn if any of you guys want any. Lemme know 🍿

beric1748

245 points

10 days ago

beric1748

245 points

10 days ago

Johnsonfam101

177 points

10 days ago

Hiding behind the Bible they've never read.

officer2446

85 points

10 days ago

officer2446

☑️

85 points

10 days ago

About six people came to mind. One of them my mother 🙃

lovbelow

32 points

10 days ago

lovbelow

☑️

32 points

10 days ago

My entire family. But they’re of the benevolent variety where they’ll ‘pray for you’. 🙄

PogoTempest

10 points

10 days ago

“I hate every part of who you are but oh golly I still love you” the fakest shit ever honestly

huntfishcamp

439 points

10 days ago

I sat on a National equity committee a while back and... well, it was really sad. Many members were passionate about things that affect their community and only those things.

Some representatives of the LGBTQIA+ community said things that were blatantly anti-Black and anti-Hispanic while some representatives of the Black and Hispanic communities refused to respect non-binary pronouns and argued that gender and sex are the same thing.

I was there representing the autistic community, and was disheartened that other members representing my community were showing anti-Black and homophobic tendencies.

I don't understand why we can't all see that oppression for some of us is oppression for all of us. I don't understand why we can't lift ourselves up without pushing others down to do it.

None of us are responsible for programming we were given as children, but we are all responsible for keeping it installed and downloading the upgrades.

gronda_gronda

122 points

10 days ago*

I don't understand why we can't all see that oppression for some of us is oppression for all of us. I don't understand why we can't lift ourselves up without pushing others down to do it.

I completely agree, and it makes my heart so heavy. One of the reasons the right does so well is that they’re united in their hate, while we get fractured because so many marginalised people refuse to acknowledge their hypocrisy, instead preferring to oppress others.

None of us are responsible for programming we were given as children, but we are all responsible for keeping it installed and downloading the upgrades.

This is perfect, and relevant in so many situations. I hope you don’t mind if I use this quote in future.

(Edited to correct mistakes.)

one_more_black_guy

234 points

10 days ago

Candace Owens said, hold my beer.

E: also see Clarence Thomas

deddogs

188 points

10 days ago

deddogs

188 points

10 days ago

Clarance confuses the fuck out of me. He’s lived through segregation in his youth and still went over to team-lynch.

SnooSprouts7893

150 points

10 days ago

It's pretty simple. "I got here exclusively by my own merit. Thus, I am the model of success all should emulate. Racism is over because I got mine."

Which, if you know the guy's history, is absurd.

But he's just an arrogant fuck with an agenda.

smartyr228

49 points

10 days ago

It got him to where he is today so I'm sure to him it's a job well done

one_more_black_guy

33 points

10 days ago

I like to think of it as some sort of extreme version of Stockholm syndrome.

He eventually reasoned out for himself, that if he ingratiated himself with his oppressors, that he would be safe. It's played out well for him, and so that self-hatred and self-lothing has been projected on to fellow members of his race.

This is all arm chair psychology.

Could be the man is just a jackass. Who's to say?

E: A lot of the comments that responded to you before I did, seem to have hit the nail right on the head.

EyeLeft3804

16 points

10 days ago

Bro got his and he's outtie. Man's not gonna fight for change that he's never gonna see when he can live it up for the shitty days he's got left. That's the sad truth with 'successful' people these days.

Cyrrow

493 points

10 days ago

Cyrrow

493 points

10 days ago

BrownSugarBare

12 points

10 days ago

Yes, he most certainly is. Can absolutely attest to the fact that many POC in my own family are WAY to goddamn comfortable with the casual racism and vehemently deny being racist because of melanin.

SirRupert

1.2k points

10 days ago

SirRupert

1.2k points

10 days ago

It's true and I feel like I see more and more people calling it out every day. The "black people can't be racist" idea was short lived and leaned on too heavily.

tittylieutenant

516 points

10 days ago

I said this on my previous account and got flamed for it. People called me stupid and everything. OOP is speaking facts.

SwimBrief

64 points

10 days ago

It’s how reddit works.

This post got positive momentum, so everyone comes in gushing and supporting the opinion to join the hivemind.

If you posted the same thing and it started with negative opinion, everyone comes in and brigades you with dissent

SoloBurger13

274 points

10 days ago*

SoloBurger13

☑️

274 points

10 days ago*

Oh yes. A lot of people are socially conservative but the right is so blatantly racist they can’t even get those ppl to switch over. But this is the reason men in minority groups are more likely to vote red (men are often more conservative)

The swastika thing is interesting bc people already follow Farrakhan sooooo same same but different

BaronAleksei

20 points

10 days ago

BaronAleksei

☑️

20 points

10 days ago

It’s actually crazy how people defend him

Like you’ve got Nick Cannon, but then in the battle rap world Corey Charron from WildNOut calls out Cannon for explicitly supporting Farrakhan’s antisemitism

And then Real Deal, a teacher of children, says “nah man, free speech, Nick Cannon’s just speaking his truth”

zmann64

17 points

9 days ago

zmann64

☑️

17 points

9 days ago

After what happened to Malcolm you’d think the community would’ve spat on Farrakhan and folks like him. But alas…

Midnight_Toker_1982

198 points

10 days ago

I’ve been saying this since high school…. Black folks are not nearly as “left wing” or “liberal” as the urban label suggests…

karmagod13000

21 points

10 days ago*

And I feel like the urban label was created by not black people.

zipahdeeday

24 points

9 days ago

Well yeah. It was used to call things black with out calling them black

MisterHappySpanky

252 points

10 days ago

In b4: the lock 🔒

Nearby_Employee_2943

83 points

10 days ago

Same I’m actually kinda shocked it hasn’t happened yet. But seems like people are having decent discourse

SparkyBrewster

25 points

10 days ago

Top of r/all and it's not even CCd. In awe at the relative civility.

justsomedude1144

66 points

10 days ago

Saving this post to sort by controversial in a few hours.

thecheapseatz

312 points

10 days ago

I'm getting the popcorn ready early. "You're no different than prejudice white people" is going to cause a fucking shit storm

andrewdrewandy

189 points

10 days ago*

Dude I am biracial Mexican/white gay guy, my sister is married to a black American dude who's family's been in the southern US forever. He is an asshole about the whole gay thing and they both go to a antigay black church. My sister has told me he thinks I'm racist (I am more white looking/"acting" than mexi) and I'm just sitting here like wtf? It's cool to be openly homophobic in my face but you're sitting here thinking I'm secretly anti-black. Maybe I'm cold to you because you're a fucking misogynistic homophobic asshole?! Nah, it's gotta be my deep seated secret hatred of black people, okay. . .

VapeThisBro

56 points

10 days ago

Tell him that. He has no right to accuse you of racism when he has been nothing but an asshole to you

andrewdrewandy

40 points

10 days ago

I've avoided to avoid drama but you're right

VapeThisBro

24 points

10 days ago

I understand the desire to avoid conflict, but consider this, unless you cut both of them out of your life or have some kind of conversation about this, chances are, you will have to deal with this for many more years. Noone deserves to receive endless hate for years for their sexual orientation and their skin color. Beyond that, he is also kinda being racist against you in assuming that you must be racist since you are a lighter skin tone

khaotickk

19 points

10 days ago

Not a country club thread? Don't mind if I do!

Debbiesatramp

42 points

10 days ago

I know quite a number of black people like this. Yeah … cut them out of my life cos people like that just carry around really dark energy

thinks1ow

154 points

10 days ago

thinks1ow

154 points

10 days ago

In other words a large portion of the population you refer to is Christian

Repyro

57 points

10 days ago

Repyro

☑️

57 points

10 days ago

Shit was by design. Some of the most insidious fucked up design out there. Its....frustrating to say the least. We try to pass on the lessons of what was done to us, and often those exact same people want to pay that shit forward in the worst possible way to LGBT.

Like, have we not learned the lesson?

kidjay76

36 points

10 days ago

kidjay76

36 points

10 days ago

I’ve said this before, but the GOP would gain a lot of black votes in the south if they weren’t so racist. A lot of southern black people share the same views/ values as conservative republicans.

Anyaele225

74 points

10 days ago

Anyaele225

☑️

74 points

10 days ago

I’d like to see the replies to that hot take.

rickmister93

75 points

10 days ago

It really hurt to know this is true but something the community is unwilling to admit at times.

blizzard-op

51 points

10 days ago

Lemme jump in before this get CC'd lmfao

shestammie

16 points

10 days ago

You left out racist.

pintomp3

16 points

10 days ago

pintomp3

16 points

10 days ago

LOL, half the comments are here to see a fight and the other half are in agreement. Noone fightin. We've reached unity.

InterdisciplinaryDol

41 points

10 days ago

Shaderoom taught me the average black woman on IG is insanely homophobic and hate the fact that a black man can be gay.

tabshiftescape

64 points

10 days ago

In b4 country club and eventual lock

CorpenicusBlack

33 points

10 days ago

The country club is exclusive. I can’t even get in.

UngenericBlackMale

62 points

10 days ago

That and class, you see a lot of "well off" POC voting for policies that negatively affect people that look like them.

Same with white gays or women being sucked into transphobia because they've now got their "rights"

alexcutyourhair

63 points

10 days ago

Coming from a West African family, yup. The shit a lot of my family thinks/believes is just gross. If I was gay or one of my future kids was trans, the shunning that would follow would honestly be their most "polite" response.

XLauncher

27 points

10 days ago

XLauncher

☑️

27 points

10 days ago

Yeah, it's true. Honestly, it's not that hot a take.

NotMyNameActually

81 points

10 days ago

It's always easier to see the ways you and your group are oppressed, than to recognize when it's happening to others. Being Jewish the first type of oppression I was aware of was antisemitism. Jews learn that our history is basically the rest of the world hating us from a very young age. Then when I started getting catcalled around age 8 or 9, I became aware of misogyny. But as a teenager I was a fucking libertarian who believed we lived in a meritocracy and that racism was over.

It wasn't until my early 20s that I finally started to figure shit out and now I see it is all the same fight. Fascists hate women and all minorities, we are all subhuman to them, they want to use women as unwilling breeders and exterminate anyone who isn't white, force-convert or exterminate anyone who isn't straight, and once they attain their imagined utopia will probably turn on each other and start oppressing anyone who's lefthanded, or it'll be innie vs. outtie bellybuttons or whatever they decide is the next axis of oppression.

The only pretend to let specific members of minority groups into their good graces, using them as puppets to pretend their ideology isn't hateful, and then discarding them when no longer useful.

Alimayu

43 points

10 days ago

Alimayu

☑️

43 points

10 days ago

Notice how the “battle for rights” always devolves into economic policy and administrative reform.

Basically the bad people of any race for any excuse to justify theft as a result of mistreatment.

Hence the “for the love of money”, not the actual money being the problem in most conflicts.

Even the holocaust and persecution of Jewish people was rooted in economic problems.

That said minorities are reported as the most common victims of abuses. That can be as a Ethnic minority, economic minority, racial minority, gender minority, or any characteristic that separates you from a controlling group.

NotMyNameActually

57 points

10 days ago

Racism persists because it is profitable. If MLK had stuck to just talking about racism, he might be alive today. When he started talking about economic injustice and attacking capitalism, that's when they killed him.

Marsi30og

28 points

10 days ago

Yes black people can be racist. Try being in an interracial relationship in Africa. You’ll be isolated