Right? I thought myself to be on the side of not using violence on your kids, but damn, this kid needs a good hard smack to come to his senses. The mother's tenderness and attempt to embrace and restrain, while it comes from good intentions, will only reenforce this kind of behavior. The kid obviously has no sense of punishment and that's probably due to her inability to be firm. It is possible to be firm without using physical punishment but it would have had to happen much earlier and it's probably too late to take that approach with this child.

It's a broader problem in our culture today, people are taking longer and longer to grow out of adolescence and it's due to being coddled for far too long.

It’s complicated. Kids need everything. They need a teacher, a guide, a friend, a loving parent, and sometimes yeah they need someone to forcefully take action.

Super common example: if your kid is about to run across a parking lot and you rapidly grab their arm and lift them up.. that’s still “getting physical”, but it’s the type of thing that you need to do as a parent.

Consequences and boundaries are good.

Lashing out in anger, being sadistic, being unreasonably cruel, neglectful, etc is bad.

With all this said.. if my kid was swinging my at me or his Mom, he’s getting stopped one way or another. If talking doesn’t work, and restraining him doesn’t work, then maybe being tossed across the room and slapped a couple of times will work.

I have never hit my kid but I’ve always told myself, if it came to serious physical safety or violence, then all bets are off. You do what you have to without crossing the line.

Just throw this one away, she looks young enough to make a new one.

I'm Irish if I acted like that (which I did) my ma would kick the shit out of me if my brothers and sisters didn't get there first. I am very great full for that now it thought me respect. my nieces and nephews walk around like they own the gaf. I'm like can I just give a little slap and it's like no you can't hit kids it's stupid. I'm not gonna beat kids but there are limbs that if squeezed will make u think twice.

You don't beat your children, but one good hard smack upside the head from someone with some size would shut this kid up for long enough to try reasoning again. He just has no fear of any kind of repercussions, so you show him the physical ramifications of his actions and then give him the option to be reasoned with. He can't be swinging on people and not get hit, he's gonna end up in jail.

Nope, personally, this is the brothers job right here, he’s already tryna help, but as a 15 year old brother to two, genuinely i’d punch him if he were acting this way.

Spanking shouldn't be your go-to punishment, but your kids need to know it's a tool in the kit bag.

Veggies for months would be the proper medicine then you could just sit on the little focker

Pain is the great equalizer…once he feels it

This will always be relevant

You're not wrong but what do you do to a kid after you've already fucked him up as parents? Once he's decided you are the problem (even if he's not wrong) it's not like the parents are going to give up and let him, what, rule the roost? It's already an issue. At this point, you aren't dealing with the primary condition. All you want is for him to not fuck his life up in public.

Basically the entire time I was waiting for somebody to put this kid in a rear naked choke. Nothing makes you feel more harmless than being unable to deal with somebody who is climbing all over your body once you're knocked down. All it would take is one serious "I will choke you until you die" maneuver and he'll either learn it or submit to it.

Learning it wouldn't be the worst thing. It would mean he's liable to be molded by a jiu jitsu coach or a wrestling coach.

He needs to be picked up and physically removed from the situation and confined until he calms down. He needs to understand that there will always be someone bigger than him somewhere capable of removing him from these situations. His parents are the first and kindest, the ones you deal with the rest of your life won't be so nice.

When I physically attacked my father he would just grab me, push me to the floor with my arm behind my back and tell me to never do that again. I did that only like 3 times and it never went on longer than like a minute...

The 80’s and 90’s would have cured this child very quickly.

Well it's hard to just start here.

I asked my better half(who is finishing her doctorate in teaching with animal assisted interventions) how she would react to this and basically it boiled down to the following.

1) if her students acted this way, you would immediately wrap them up and take them to the ground until they calm down. Think bear hug. She had to do this with several students before.

2) once he's calmed down, ask them how they thought this would go and try and get them to start a conversation on what they think they should have done vs what they did.

According to her, a lot of kids like this lack any good strategies or coping mechanisms to handle their emotional outbursts. And hitting them only encourages them to internalize it(basically putting off the inevitable explosion).

Of course(and this is my note here) sometimes your kid rolled a nat 1 during character creation and got the 'psychopath' trait. And if that's the case you are kinda fucked no matter what.

first off, kids don't act like this 99.99% of the time

this kid has legitimate problems

Understand that of your child starts acting out anywhere near this badly, they need an assessment and assistance.

This didn't start with this video.

Hitting is not for anger. It is not for revenge. It is not for solace. Not for me, and not for kids. But my rule is that even if I'm trying to avoid a power struggle, attempts to control me with violence will be met with unquestionably superior violence. That shit does not fly.

Throw hands and put his fat ass on a diet

I remember getting my ass beat for not writing neat enough, among other things like that. My dad eventually stopped doing it, because he didn’t like how we reacted to him in fear. But from this I don’t know what the solution is, I don’t think it’s spankings, and talking is not working at this point.

We see this constantly in elementary schools now. It's terrifying even onto a personal level. These kids lose complete control of their senses. I have been punched by a boy the same size as this one. Three fast punches to the middle of my face. I finally quit that job.

Did he turn out okay?

Thank you for sharing. I don't have much knowledge on childhood behaviour like this but this video really fucking broke my heart. I am glad he grew up to be alright and that his family didn't give up on him.

*Re-achment Attactive disorder

Antidisestablishmentarianism

My cousin works at a home for kids with Prader-Willi syndrome. These kids never feel full so they are constantly eating, sometimes until the point of extreme obesity. They also tend to have uncontrollable rage issues. He’s regularly attacked and sometimes even has shit thrown at him. I have no idea what this kids actual condition is but some behavior issues cannot simply be cured by discipline or therapy.

Him screaming and continuing to throw punches kinda points to him being over stimulated and a lot of the time this is what kids on the spectrum look like during an episode. You can also tell by his mom and brothers reaction that this is a pretty regular thing and they are being intentional with how they manage the situation.

You know autism is different for everyone right? When I was younger I had pretty bad meltdowns and the only way for me to calm down was if I was alone, otherwise I don't remember a single time I calmed down with someone in the room watching me. Sure this is anecdotal evidence but just saying this could be ASD. Could also be not, I'm not a psychiatrist just saying not to rule it out

Autism is a very broad diagnosis. It could absolutely be autism. I've worked with meant different asd clients for 8 years.

Curious as well

Yup, that isn't just a bratty kid. He definitely has a screw loose. I know this because I work on vehicles, and vehicles have many screws, loose and tight.

Mom is a saint. And big brother (?) is dealing with some pile of shit that a kid that age shouldn't have to be worrying.

I think it's safe to say that beating children is generally not a solution to anything.

I’d be afraid he would just start breaking stuff and or hurt himself in doing so if they locked him in his room. They need to just send him to outward bound

Preferably if she knows leg sweeps. Who am I kidding? Every Mexican mom knows leg sweeps unless she’s got a wicked left hook and every Mexican mom has a wicked left hook.

As long as she has a chankla in her arsenal

I never understood how my friends weren’t terrified of their moms. But not everyone has a tiny terrifying Mexican mom I guess

Armed with a chancleta, Mexican Mom is every bit as fierce as OddJob with a hat.

This fucking slayed me 😂

Indian mum - with the Slipper of Doom !!!

100% this is a key subtly I wish was discussed more

Then open palm that little asshole

And grow up with more mental trauma from it than spanking would

Oh damn!!!! I seen my brother[16 at the time] get put threw a wall. For calling my mom a bitch. Then he got grounded evey other day for a month. I got woke up at 3 in the morning for not doing the dishes and made to do them when I was 7. Still had to get up and go to school. My parents didn't play.