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Related to 5RHT, this kinda demonstrates a good way on how to apply it:

Five Rational Questions:

1. Is my thinking based on obvious fact?

2. Will my thinking best help me protect my life and health?

3. Will my thinking best help me achieve my short and long-term goals?

4. Will my thinking best help me prevent unwanted conflicts with others?

5. Will my thinking help me feel the emotions I want to feel without using alcohol or drugs?

Three honest "yes" answers reveal rational and therefore ideally healthy thinking. Three honest "no" answers reveal irrational thinking or behavior.

It's kinda hard to say? I started it around the same time I was actually reading and learning more about ADHD (and various other mental health issues), and I know that the process of learning about all the shit therapists and other MH providers had never mentioned helped me a lot; essentially, attempting things like mindfulness and meditation with zero knowledge of the root cause was largely ineffective. I do know it took me getting up to 4mg ER before I noticed a difference medication-wise, and combining the medication with exercises in mindfulness and such helped A LOT. I wouldn't say I'm even close to handling rejection as well as the way it seems NTs can, but I do know that my ability is magnitudes better than what it once was.

Clonidine is another medication that's used to treat RSD that some people have had success with. I was once prescribed it for sleep issues — long before I knew about RSD — but can't personally attest to its efficacy for RSD (though it didn't do shit for my sleep problems), mainly because I have an aversion to taking any habit-forming meds daily, so I was only taking it a couplefew times a week. After learning about RSD, the main reason I pushed my provider to let me try guanfacine is because it's not habit-forming.

It's been a few years since I read all the stuff and things, but I know some CBT/DBT concepts are supposed to be helpful as well and I remember reading accounts from some people talking about how they benefited from therapy using those techniques. It seemed to me that most people benefited from guided therapy, but I never found much success that way as every therapist I met with relied on using visualization and I have aphantasia. My mindfulness and meditation is essentially a variation of some of those CBT techniques though - specifically the ABCDE model of emotion and 5RHT - and practicing those definitely helped.

 

ABCDE model of emotion:

• Activating Event (be aware of why one is having a reaction)

• Belief (the event causes someone to have a belief, either rational or irrational)

• Consequence (the belief leads to a consequence, with rational beliefs leading to healthy consequences and irrational beliefs leading to unhealthy consequences)

• Disputation (if one has held an irrational belief which has caused unhealthy consequences, they must dispute that belief and turn it into a rational belief)

• New Effect (the disputation has turned the irrational belief into a rational belief, and the person now has healthier consequences of their belief as a result)

 

Five Rules for Healthy Thinking (5RHT):

1. Healthy Thinking is based on obvious facts (objective reality);

2. Healthy Thinking best protects my life and health;

3. Healthy Thinking best helps me to achieve my short and long-term goals;

4. Healthy Thinking best helps me to prevent or handle the most unwanted conflicts with others;

5. Healthy Thinking best helps me feel the way I want to feel, without abusing any substances.

 

All that said, nothing is gonna be universal - just because I've found a mix that works well for me doesn't mean it'll work for everybody (or even anybody!) else. There's still completely separate issues I'm navigating how to deal with and I won't stop trying. The key thing is to keep trying different things in different combinations until you find what works for you.

I don't think it's bad, and — given what he's put you and your family through — I think it's completely understandable.

For what it's worth, I felt the same way about my father for most of childhood, to the point that when I was 14 and he went into a coma, I was completely apathetic about it and felt my family would've been better off if he had just died instead. I think I visited him a total of 3 times in the 2-3 months he was hospitalized and it was never by choice. Similarly, I also held it against my mom for staying with him.

In my case, things changed drastically in the years that followed, but I still have no guilt or regret about feeling (or not feeling) the way I did about him when I was growing up; while 28 year old me was devastated when he died, I think 13 year old me was completely justified in wishing he was dead.

As a man, I also jump when somebody grabs my nipple.

Somewhat coincidentally, I was listening to an episode of Craig Ferguson's new podcast yesterday where he's talking to Kathy Lee Gifford, and she talked about how Howard Stern apologized to her for talking so much shit about her and how horrible he felt about it.

And Rob Lowe has barely aged since

It definitely helped me!

The clip culminates in a woman being knocked over by a tyre after it hits her in the head, and she crashes to the floor.

It makes my eye twitch a little bit that they used "floor" when it takes place outside.

I never got served by him, but I served him multiple times over the years. He was always super rad to chat with.

I feel like the new Hawaii Five-O is the cringiest of cringe in product placement, especially with the cars and those painfully long establishing shots, but I think the absolute worst in the show is the desperate attempt to place Microsoft - seriously, who the fuck would actually say "Why don't you just Bing it?"

It's in "Shawn Takes a Shot in the Dark," Season 4, Episode 9.

"I'm having a hard time concentrating on anything but the gun. Could be my A.D.D. acting up." - Shawn Spencer

I believe that fedoras wouldn’t have near the stigma they do today if they weren’t worn by dudes with shoddy facial hair, greasy glasses, T-shirts, and cargo shorts.

Even moreso if people would recognize that those guys are actually wearing trilbys and not fedoras.

I HOPE HIS CAPE GETS CAUGHT AND A BLOODBATH ENSUES!

I've had chronic pain for 20+ years and live in a constant state of 6-7. Multiple people ask how I'm feeling after I broke my toe recently at work and seem genuinely baffled by the fact that I tell them that the toe pain is nothing compared to what I live with every day. Like, I'd say the toe is probably a 3 on my pain scale.

I cleaned it up after it happened, worked for ~10 hours, then went to the hospital to deal with it, and my toe had nothing on the feeling of wearing a wet sock and how limping was causing my chronic pain flair up more than normal.

"I want you to know I don't automatically wash my hands every time I go to the bathroom okay? Can you deal with that? Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. You know when I wash my hands? When I shit on them! That's the only time. And you know how often that happens? Tops, TOPS, 2-3 times a week tops! Maybe a little more frequently over the holidays, you know what I mean?" - George Carlin

That's an interesting political compass

But it is a means of production...

I was very confused for a second because I thought you were referring to the other Rhianna.

I was thinking that one was a different way of, uh, showing love.

There's actually a few of those in there — Czechoslovakia, North and South Yemen, etc. — along with several countries completely missing, but I do remember some additional details!

Randy Rogel (the songwriter) was inspired to start writing the song around 1991 when his son was studying geography and around 2 years before Animaniacs premiered. Taking some of the country names and factoring in that most elementary textbooks (at the time, at least) were used for several years, it's reasonable to assume the book Rogel originally used was probably printed somewhere between 1988-90. Given the US history with the USSR and the fact they were a global superpower, it is also reasonable to understand why the dissolution of USSR is properly named, while Yemen, Yugoslavia, Czechoslovakia, etc. were overlooked.

As for some of the missing countries, another verse was written (I think around 2008) to include most of them, and Rob loves to perform it with the additional verse.

Also, Rob Paulsen did a Ted Talk in October 2019 and closed it with singing the song including the additional verse (song at ~17:10). While his voice may sound a little bit harsh/off, bear in mind that he overcame HPV-related throat cancer not too long before that.

I've not had the pleasure of meeting him - though I know people who have - but I've heard nothing but great things about him.